Sex With Emily

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In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change.



Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?"



They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive.



Featured Resource:



Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits.








Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth

3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life)

7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough

14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works

19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration

22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy

39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration

49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication

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In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity.

We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection.

The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins.

You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations.


Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction

1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse

10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters

18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex

24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy

27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers

31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating

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In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being.

Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies.

We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself."

The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness.


Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:57 - What is Functional Medicine?

8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings"

13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms

22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back

32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health

39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support

46:25 - The Missing Conversation

52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession

54:29 - Quickfire Round

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In this essential episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily dedicates an entire show to demystifying the vagina, expanding knowledge about vulvas, vaginal health, and orgasm types. This conversation is all about understanding anatomy, pleasure pathways, and destigmatizing sexual issues that too many people face in silence.



We explore the internal clitoral network and why it wasn't included in medical texts until the late 1990s, debunk myths around different types of orgasms (spoiler: they're all connected through internal clitoral structure), and address why penetration alone doesn't cause orgasms for most vulva owners. Emily answers listener questions covering everything from clitoral piercings and vaginismus to rebuilding sexual identity after cancer and chronic yeast infections.



This episode includes practical product recommendations like vibrators for sensitive bodies, CBD-infused lubes, and guidance on hormone replacement therapy for vaginal health. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, struggling to reach climax, or just want to understand your body better, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance for reclaiming your pleasure and sexual confidence.





Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Your Vagina for Better Pleasure

1:44 - Caller Question: Clitoral Piercing Pain and Partner Acceptance

4:20 - Vaginismus: When Your Vagina Won't Relax for Penetration

8:44 - Endometriosis and Sexual Recovery After Cancer

16:22 - Clitoral vs G-Spot Orgasms: What's the Difference?

18:12 - Post-Menopause Orgasms and Vibrator "Addiction" Myths

23:10 - Chronic Yeast Infections: Causes and Solutions

28:21 - When Your Partner Stops Wanting Oral Sex After Baby

32:13 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways for Vaginal Health and Pleasure

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It's not just your closet that needs a refresh, your love life might too. In this episode, Emily helps you declutter the emotional and relational baggage that's blocking deeper connection, better sex, and healthier self-worth. Think of it as a relationship reset: more intention, less chaos.



We explore the signs your love life needs a clean-out (hint: recurring patterns, mixed signals, ghosting) and how to stop confusing chaos for chemistry. Emily guides you through rewriting your dating narrative with clarity and compassion, knowing when to break up with your "type" and try something new, and how to identify emotional unavailability in yourself and others. This episode also covers letting go of "situationships" that are keeping you stuck and creating a values-based dating filter that actually works.



If you've been stuck in dating loops, confused about someone's intentions, or holding on to a relationship that's "almost" right, this episode offers the permission, and tools, you need to clear the space for real, aligned love.





Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

8:51 - How to Identify Toxic Relationships and Partners

19:09 - Signs It's Time to Let Go of Your Relationship

23:03 - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman Research)

27:17 - Trust Issues: When Relationships Can't Be Rebuilt

30:24 - When Sex Dies in Your Relationship

38:17 - Email Time: Jealous Partner Making Wild Accusations

44:40 - Sex During Separation: Good Idea or Trap?

47:02 - The Great Squirting Debate: What It Really Is

51:46 - Wrap-Up and How to Connect