Sex With Emily

EPISODE SUMMARY



Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles that control your orgasms to the hormones that fuel desire, Dr. Wallace breaks down what's actually happening in your body and what you can do about it at every age.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• What your pelvic floor actually is and why 80% of women can't properly contract it



• The connection between pelvic floor strength and orgasm intensity



• How to do a kegel correctly using yogic breathing techniques



• Why recurrent UTIs happen and the supplement hack that prevents them



• The truth about hormone therapy and why that 20-year-old study shouldn't scare you



• What "optimal" hormone levels mean versus just "normal" lab ranges



• How testosterone affects women's sex drive—and when supplementation helps



• The real timeline for postpartum sexual recovery (hint: it's not 6 weeks)



• Why the Emsella chair delivers 12,000 pelvic floor contractions in one session



• How core strength affects everything from incontinence to back pain to sexual confidence



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa 

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:53 - What Is Your Pelvic Floor & Why Should You Care

4:41 - The UTI Hack Most Women Don't Know About

6:52 - First Steps When You Suspect Perimenopause

9:01 - The 80% Orgasm Problem (And How to Fix It)

10:20 - How to Do a Kegel Correctly (Live Tutorial)

14:04 - What the Emsella Chair Actually Does to Your Body

17:06 - How Hormone Replacement Changes Sexual Function

20:05 - Pregnant Sex & Postpartum Recovery Truth

24:00 - Protecting Your Pelvic Floor Before Problems Start

29:01 - Why Core Strength Makes You Sexy From the Inside Out

EPISODE SUMMARY



Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally available. Matthew breaks down why we keep choosing the wrong people, how to set boundaries without sabotaging connection, and the texting behaviors that reveal true interest levels.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• The difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why excitement often masks anxiety

• How to identify emotional availability in the first few dates

• Why having standards matters more than having a "type"

• The art of expressing needs without coming across as needy

• Red flags in texting culture and what silence really means

• How to break patterns of settling and choose better partners

• Why vulnerability creates attraction (and how to practice it)

• When to walk away from situationships that aren't serving you

• How self-worth directly impacts who you attract and keep

• Strategies for building sexual tension while deepening emotional intimacy



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Qualia



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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro: The Dolphin Metaphor - Understanding Our Conditioning

1:36 - Meet Matthew Hussey: Dating Expert & Confidence Coach

6:48 - Matthew's Journey with Chronic Pain & The Concept of "Happy Enough"

13:18 - Matthew's Evolution & The Pain of Helping Others

18:26 - Lighting the Fuse: Detonating Your Own Life Before It Implodes

25:17 - Anxiety in Relationships & The Wall We Keep Crashing Into

32:45 - The Dolphin Tank: How Our Past Shapes Our Reality

37:41 - Core Confidence: You Don't Need to Be Special to Love Yourself

42:15 - Giving Yourself Closure & Modeling Healthy Standards

48:26 - Five Quickie Questions & Outro

EPISODE SUMMARY



Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments



• How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection



• The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration



• Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms



• How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex



If you have a sexy story to share, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with "sexy story" in the subject line.



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage

4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos

7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom

11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex

13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm

17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships

20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration

21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex

23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story

EPISODE SUMMARY



In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades.

This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone"



• Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it



• Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer



• Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive



• You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm



More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily



Bellesa 

"EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life

7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage

9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships

14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles

22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms)

28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women

29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy

39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule

42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK)

50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women

EPISODE SUMMARY



In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T



In this episode, you'll learn:



• Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love

• Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay

• You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself

• Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences

• Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing





More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 

Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules

5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships

7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story

10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love

13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person

17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect

22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication

5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period)

29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships

32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets

34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns

47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex