Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Have you ever had a date where you talked for hours about your childhood, your deepest wounds, your hopes, your fears, maybe even slept together, and walked away thinking, Wow, we really connected? Only to have them disappear, pull away, or tell you they’re not looking for a relationship? We’re unpacking the difference between feeling intimate and actually building intimacy, and how you can create a level of closeness that feels earned, not performative or forced. We discuss how intensity often makes us feel close to someone in a way that burns out , why intimacy is not just vulnerability, sex, or trauma dumping, and ways you build the type of intimacy that feels natural even on a first date . Enjoy!

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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It's so easy to spit out the Instagram slogans we see everywhere like "Protect Your Peace,” “Set Boundaries,” “Know Your Worth,” “You Don’t Owe Anyone Anything” but what happens when what was meant to be empowering leaves us alone? We're discussing with Amanda White of @therapyforwomen why therapy culture on the internet has done real damage and how we can add the nuance needed to make sure we aren't giving to the wrong people vs. unnecessarily shutting people out for being human. We discuss why annoyance is the price you pay for community, how our obsession with frictionless living has made us less capable of tolerating the discomfort of relationships, and when you can heal through relationships vs. know it's necessary to take the time for yourself. Enjoy!

To learn more about Amanda, follow her at @therapyforwomen and visit https://therapyforwomencenter.com/

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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So you met someone in the most unexpected place IRL, but could it ever turn into a real relationship? We're chatting with Alex & Angelica to hear the story of how they met while on vacation in Hawaii, and how things developed into them dating long-distance and eventually starting a relationship 3 months after meeting. We discuss how their drastically different backgrounds in dating and relationships ultimately prepared them for each other, the steps they're taking to build a meaningful relationship (even miles apart), and how this unexpected relationship has helped them both grow individually while together by continuing to say yes to each other and outside experiences, Enjoy!

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is AI helping us feel more connected, or making us less willing to deal with the messiness of real human relationships? We’re joined by Dr. Melissa Perry to unpack what happens when we turn to AI to process our dating lives, relationships, and emotions instead of turning to the people around us. We discuss why AI can feel so validating and easy to talk to (and what that means for humans that can't keep up with the speed and attention it gives us!), what we actually lose when we outsource too much of our emotional lives to technology, and how to embrace technology without losing what makes human connection so meaningful. Enjoy!

NOTE: This is not a pro or anti-AI discussion but rather a nuanced look at what is happening to human connection with the rise of AI.

To learn more about Melissa Perry read her column on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-epidemiologist

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when the life you imagined in your 20s doesn’t look anything like the life you’re living in your 40s? We're unpacking what millennial midlife really looks like – from being single and dating later in life to navigating marriage, long-term relationships, divorce, and changing expectations around commitment and family. We discuss why our generation is rewriting the rules of adulthood, the new challenges we face compared to past generations that trigger a different type of feeling unsettled, and why midlife can be an opportunity to redefine what fulfillment looks like rather than a crisis. Enjoy!

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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!


Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy